You can be democratic and still have a  leader.  In fact, I believe you need a leader.  But not a dictator.  Leadership and dictatorship are two very different things.  A good leader values the opinions of the other people on the team.  He or she is clear in maintaining a boundary of authority, but this is not a negative thing.  It helps to create balance to unbalanced situations when necessary.  On the other hand, a dictator gives orders and has absolute power over others, sometimes at the expense of people's well-being and happiness. 

Dictionary definition of dictatorship: 
absolute, imperious, or overbearing power or control.

Bottom line though, is that for months people have speculated whether Grace has changed the way she approaches her band.  (i.e. Are they now "hired guns?") I think this helped to clear up that question for me, at least.  Nothing wrong with it, it is what it is - its actually nice to hear an honest answer.  If a democracy didn't work for these guys, that's fine.  But I think its sad to jump from one extreme (free for all, no leadership) to the other (dictatorship).  There is such a thing as a middle ground, people!!!