First off, what is Mary's phone number?  I would like to meet and become her friend.

As for the scenario, we don't have enough information to go on right now.  What do you mean the situation was "awkward?"  How do we know the phone sex thing isn't part of a mutual attraction?  Is he seeing other women at the same time?  Do they live in the same city?  How do we know he isn't really into her?

For a second, I thought this scenario might be about yourself, but I know you don't have a blackberry, but an iphone, so it is impossible.

As for giving advice, that is the toughest job in the world for a friend.  Nobody ever listens.

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