<object height="303" width="480"><param name="movie" value="http://www.howcast.com/flash/howcast_player.swf?file=262698&amp;theme=black" /><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true" /><param name="allowScriptAccess" value="always" /><param name="flashVars" value="&amp;fs=true" /><embed allowfullscreen="true" allowscriptaccess="always" flashvars="&amp;fs=true" height="303" src="http://www.howcast.com/flash/howcast_player.swf?file=262698&amp;theme=black" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="480" /></object> <span>Step 1: Make a list Make a list of the holiday rituals that are important to you and ask your spouse to do the same. Then find a quiet, relaxed time to discuss how you can both preserve your traditions. </span> <!--more--> Step 2: Be open-minded If you find yourself balking at one of your spouse’s requests, think of it as [...]