<a href="/images/old/6a00e5537d966288330120a7ce2fe5970b-800wi.png" rel="lightbox" style="display: inline;"><img alt="Screen shot 2010-01-13 at 10.53.38 AM" class="asset asset-image at-xid-6a00e5537d966288330120a7ce2fe5970b " src="/images/old/6a00e5537d966288330120a7ce2fe5970b-500wi.png" style="width: 480px; " /></a> <br /><span style="color: #41494d; font-family: arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px; "><p class="textmod first" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table; border-top-width: 0px; "></p><p class="inner" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table-row; "></p><p class="bd" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table-cell; zoom: 1; vertical-align: top; word-wrap: break-word; "></p><h4 style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 4px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 1em; color: #242b33; ">Step 1: Praise her beauty</h4><p class="textile" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; "></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4545em; word-wrap: break-word; ">Praise her beauty. It can be a general “you are so gorgeous,” or more specific, like, “you have the most kissable lips.” Just keep it clean, unless she’s an intimate partner. And remember: “Beautiful” always trumps “cute” in the game of compliment-giving.</p></span>

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<p class="textmod " style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table; "><p class="inner " style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table-row; "><p class="bd " style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table-cell; zoom: 1; vertical-align: top; word-wrap: break-word; "><h4 style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 4px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 1em; color: #242b33; ">Step 2: Admire something intangible</h4><p class="textile " style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; "><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4545em; word-wrap: break-word; ">Laud something less obvious than her looks, like her strength, her outspokenness, or her accomplishments. You’ll get points for originality.</p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4545em; word-wrap: break-word; "><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px; "><p class="textmod" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table; "><p class="inner" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table-row; "><p class="bd" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table-cell; zoom: 1; vertical-align: top; word-wrap: break-word; "><h4 style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 4px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 1em; color: #242b33; ">Step 3: Cite the unexpected</h4><p class="textile" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; "><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4545em; word-wrap: break-word; ">Extol a quality she rarely receives compliments for. If she’s used to being told she’s beautiful, but wants to be thought of as intelligent, praise her smarts. If she’s an egghead who rarely gets kudos for her looks, find something about her appearance to extol. Just remember to keep it truthful.</p><p><font size="3"><span style="font-size: 12px; line-height: 17px;"><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px; "><p class="textmod" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table; "><p class="inner" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table-row; "><p class="bd" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table-cell; zoom: 1; vertical-align: top; word-wrap: break-word; "><h4 style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 4px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 1em; color: #242b33; ">Step 4: Notice her skin</h4><p class="textile" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; "><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4545em; word-wrap: break-word; ">If she has nice skin, tell her so. Women put a lot of stock – not to mention time and effort – in a flawless complexion, so you’ll win points for noticing she has one.</p><p><font size="3"><span style="font-size: 12px; line-height: 17px;"><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px; "><p class="textmod" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table; "><p class="inner" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table-row; "><p class="bd" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table-cell; zoom: 1; vertical-align: top; word-wrap: break-word; "><h4 style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 4px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 1em; color: #242b33; ">Step 5: Avoid this weighty issue</h4><p class="textile" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; "><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4545em; word-wrap: break-word; ">Tread carefully around the weight issue. “You look like you’ve lost weight” can be misconstrued as, “you were fat before.” Play it safe with a general comment about her great figure or a specific remark about how terrific her body looks in that outfit.</p><p><font size="3"><span style="font-size: 12px; line-height: 17px;"><span style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 16px; "><p class="textmod" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table; "><p class="inner" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table-row; "><p class="bd" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; display: table-cell; zoom: 1; vertical-align: top; word-wrap: break-word; "><h4 style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 4px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold; line-height: 1em; color: #242b33; ">Step 6: Don&#39;t catcall</h4><p class="textile" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; "><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 0px; padding-top: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4545em; word-wrap: break-word; ">Remember that screaming at a total stranger is not a compliment.</p></p></p></p></p></span></span></font></p></p></p></p></p></span></span></font></p></p></p></p></p></span></span></font></p></p></p></p></p></span></p></p></p></p></p><p class="embedded-howcast-video " style="text-align:center;font-size:9px;"><object classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" height="303" id="howcastplayer" width="480"><param name="movie" value="http://www.howcast.com/flash/howcast_player.swf?file=236732&amp;theme=black" /><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true" /><param name="allowScriptAccess" value="always" /><param name="flashVars" value="&amp;fs=true" /><embed allowfullscreen="true" allowscriptaccess="always" flashvars="&amp;fs=true" height="303" src="http://www.howcast.com/flash/howcast_player.swf?file=236732&amp;theme=black" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="480" /></object></p>
