I have no control over my family?  How about I don't try to control them.  I let them do what they want 99% of the time, but the 1% or 1 round I told them to lay off they did exactly what I asked.  Ask CK, he hated it but still did as I asked.  Just because we don't try to control our families doesn't mean we aren't good dons.  But I would give my vote to cj just because I wouldn't vote myself.  But we both know anyone in either FA or FS could run the family and it would be just fine.