This is what I think:

I think Today, which just happens to be a Tuesday but maybe when you read this it will be a Wednesday or a Saturday (it doesn't matter), is Someday.

In other words, today is the day you've been saving your nice things for. I'm talking about the little things that you know will give you pleasure because you were a little nervous when you bought them but you told yourself that it was OK, because you're going to take good care of them and you'll use them Someday.

That thing. I think you should use it today.

It doesn't matter what it is. Your wedding china. Really nice running socks. Those fancy chocolates that you bought for Someday when company would pop by unexpectedly. Pretty lingerie that you're saving for a Special Date you will have Someday. A nice pen, maybe, that is drying up in a forgotten drawer as you read this.

Today is a great day to take that thing out and enjoy it.

(You're probably like me and have many things saved for Someday. I think it's a good idea to just use one thing today – we don't want to get overwhelmed.)

Eventually, but not Someday, you will get used to it. Practice makes perfect.

Drink your orange juice from that nice crystal your aunt gave you. Wear those lovely shoes you never have the courage to because they're so pretty and you love them so much. You shouldn't love things – you should use them and enjoy them. Save your love for people. Write your grocery list on the nice paper pad someone gave you a long time ago. Don't think about it too much and just do it.

It doesn't make sense to be intimidated by your nice things. They don't serve their purpose if they're hidden away. If you allow yourself to use your nice things everyday you will get used to them. This is important. If you get used to your nice things, you will not feel like an impostor when you use them. They will just become a part of your life.

You deserve a life filled with nice things.

Eventually you will expect things to be nice. It's not about turning into a snob. Eventually crappy things just won't do, so you won't be tempted by them. You will spend less money in the long run. You will be confident enough that when you do see something nice and beautiful and worthwhile you will buy it. There aren't that many nice things in the world, so when you find something nice you won't feel guilty. It's OK, because you hardly ever buy things – you save your money and you can indulge when you want – and most importantly, you know what things bring you pleasure.

And you will realize that Someday is already here.

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