I was mildly surprised to hear you were trying match.com only because it has a horrific reputation as kind of a meat-market, fast pick-up slurry. Though the same day you mentioned it I met some people that very night who had used it to find each other and were very happy so I thought it had changed. Apparently not :-/ 

eharmony.com has those fun commercials but only works if you're religious and looking for other religious people.

okcupid.com was the only one that I thought seemed interesting enough to try...and then they were purchased by match.com. Apparently match is leaving them largely alone. The guy who runs okcupid is one of my people (the nerdly ones) and has put in a ridiculous amount of work to making sure like people see like people and so on. There must be a reason it's this popular after entering the game so late. 

Regardless, here's to hoping your new plan works. Cheers!