" Here’s who I am: someone who’s done all those things and started to question them."

I'm going to guess one reason no one raised the question --- you are not static. You are open, wondering, engaged, willing to change and actively seek it.

I remember you telling us you changed a single word and why and how you thought that change made the scene better.

You are not static, You are on the move. My guess is your writing will be too.