<!--quoteo(post=286876:date=May 13 2008, 02&#58;48 PM:name=55ChevyLady)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (55ChevyLady &#064; May 13 2008, 02&#58;48 PM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&amp;pid=286876">&lt;strong&gt;QUOTE BELOW&lt;/strong&gt;</div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec--><!--quoteo(post=286857:date=May 13 2008, 02&#58;41 PM:name=zebra)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (zebra &#064; May 13 2008, 02&#58;41 PM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&amp;pid=286857">&lt;strong&gt;QUOTE BELOW&lt;/strong&gt;</div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->Andrea... so sorry to hear about your Mom&#39;s sight.  It&#39;s so hard for us to see our parents age isn&#39;t it.  But sight or no sight she has a wonderful daughter like you, be strong for her, I know it&#39;s tough and you&#39;ll have to be doing more for her than you did before.... but enjoy all the time you have together and all the memories you&#39;ve had through your life.  I&#39;ll be praying for strength for you and also for your Mom that they will have arrested the degeneration.<br />(((HUGS)))<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd--><br /><br /><br />Thank You so much,<br /><br />I went by to check on her on my way home from school,  she hadn&#39;t used her drops like she was supposed to so I got her to do that.........It is hard to take care of someone who will not take care of their  self.  I know she gets terribly depressed but it makes it so much harder on everybody else <b>who is trying to help</b>  I just wish she would try a little harder......<br /><!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd--><br /><br />Parents i think......are like anyone that realizes that they are or could be losing their power to make their own decisions.....losing  independence.. I think they get scared... and when folks get scared most will do nothing....and you and i both know how hard it is to get someone to do something if they are reluctant.... only through heart to heart talks do I think.. we can understand how they feel which is in my humble opinion is half the battle to getting them to respond they way you need them too..<br /><br />My dad and I developed one rule between us  ... as long as the party in question understands the consequence of their actions ..(eating fatty food..not taking meds..etc)<br />then so be it ..its your life.... it&#39;s your death your in control... I don&#39;t have the right to tell you what to do ... but i do reserve the right to express my opinion....the only time that rule would not in effect is if the party effect doesn&#39;t understand or cannot comprehend..<br /><br />I wish you luck with the care of Mom&#33;&#33;<br /><br />Hugs