A lot of us gals seem to be in the same boat - family wise.  Like you I have always been the one that&#39;s available - even when I worked full time.<br /><br />Dh is also an only child so when we lost his Dad and Courtney (our daughter) on the same day it was pretty hard going.  We had a double funeral so the planning was not twice as involved - just twice as sad.<br /><br />My brother is on board but he won&#39;t be much help anyway - as he lives 12 hours away.  He has never spent a Christmas with us in the past 38 years - since he got married.  So it&#39;s always been me for birthdays, anniversaries, and every holiday.<br /><br />Good to be able to talk it over with you guys though  -  thank you for your support.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><img src="http://i22.photobucket.com/albums/b319/hazelson/bye-11.jpg" border="0" class="linked-image" />