Deb, we are, and you are right about it changing for the better as the years go by.  I remember when I was in my late 20&#39;s and my grandpa died.  My grandma seemed so stoic and strong and I was thinking that because they had been married 6 weeks shy of 50 years, that she was probably fine with him being gone.  After all, surely they had experienced enough of life together, but now that I am older, I know I was wrong.  Each and every day, I fall more in love with my husband and am more grateful for all he has added to my life.  I can&#39;t even imagine continuing to live if he weren&#39;t with me.  As we age, I become more aware of what he needs and of all the things I can do to make his life better - I am not so sure that was a priority when we got married 31 yrs. ago...