<!--quoteo(post=299110:date=Jul 15 2008, 07&#58;58 AM:name=kmills)--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (kmills &#064; Jul 15 2008, 07&#58;58 AM) <a href="index.php?act=findpost&amp;pid=299110">&lt;strong&gt;QUOTE BELOW&lt;/strong&gt;</div><div class='quotemain'><!--quotec-->Have been talking with my future SIL mother about his grandfather.  He has been off of the sedatation meds now for a week and his eyes are open but he is not responding to commands.  Does not sound good.  It sounds like this might be the way he will be from now on.  They are trying plan for a nursing facility but of course the family did not talk to him prior to the surgery about what if.  Now they are stuck with a locked safe and no idea of who his attorney is, or what he wanted.  I am sure that I did not tell her what she wanted to hear about how the payment system works in a nursing facility because you basically have to spend or liquidate everything they have before the government will help pay.  Not what you want to hear when you know dad has left everything (including the farm) to you.  That is why I say it is good to preplan if you are expecting your kids to keep anything that you might have.<!--QuoteEnd--></div><!--QuoteEEnd--><br /><br />So very sorry to hear all this.  Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.  It is awful that a family has to lose everything that they have worked for before the government will help pay.<br /><br />The parents have their estate planned out.  It is just the funeral part that they haven&#39;t.  But they are SLOWLY working on it.  LOL<br />The estate planning and all other needed legal documents is the one biggie I insisted on their doing several years ago.  The first and main reason I basically made them do it was because I was going to be  responsible for their well-being and I needed the ability to handle their affairs.  For anybody, not just elderly parents, estate planning, POA&#39;s, Living Wills... is a must&#33;