Cheryl-- I was very sorry to hear about your uncle, and that you weren&#39;t notified.  Please don&#39;t dwell on that part though.  Your aunt may have had a large number of people who asked to stay informed; she may have had trouble relating the bad news to relatives; who knows.  Surely it wasn&#39;t intentional.<br /><br />I think you should buy Uncle Lew a real nice flower arrangement and send it.  Might make you feel a little better.