Being diagnosed with PCOS as a late teen, the scare of infertility started early for me.  The words "pregnancy may be difficult" from my OBGYN always felt a bit of a death sentence. To cut to the chase, I have two perfect children now some 15 years later, but not without a lot of heart-ache and emotional ups and downs along the way.

Our first child came within six months of "trying but not trying." It was easy, actually. No temperature monitoring, no buying pregnancy tests in bulk, no tests, and more importantly no stress. There was no figuring out when my period was supposed to come, and waiting with baited breath to see if it did. It was living life normally.

The second child, who came almost five years later, was a bit of a different story. We did the same approach to start, but after a year, we knew that we needed to start taking things more seriously. So, the tests, the timing, and the waiting started in earnest. It was hard, and what I found was that my normal thought pattern started to shift. Thoughts of swaddled babies smelling fresh as well as getting a twinge when I saw a pregnant woman came regularly.  Looking back, I am sure I started to become a little psychotic and a lot depressed. A few times the pregnancy test came back positive along with the rush of those emotions, only to find out weeks later that the pregnancies were not viable and needed to be terminated. Heart. Ache.

I had two very different experiences having two terrific kids. Can I say that my depression and stress that I felt hampered my ability to get pregnant the second time? Who knows. What I can say for sure, however, that my infertility problems certainly did contribute to my stress and depression and we all know the detrimental effects on our body when we have such extreme emotions.

I have always believed in the mind-body connection, but in the case of my second pregnancy, had no idea how I could help myself through the problem. I know that the emotions that we carry around with us, especially anger and anxiety can be energy-sappers, but can also be destructive o the careful balancing of our hormonal and immune systems.  The negativity captures excess energy that could be redirected elsewhere in the bodies - most importantly your reproductive system. By freeing this negative energy through relaxation, meditation and even recording your thoughts in a journal, we begin the wonderful process of recovery and healing.

So, looking back, since I had no idea how to help myself "balance" things out, I would expect there are many others of you like me going through what I went through. You are most likely going through a regimen by your OBGYN, but the approach is from the neck-down. You have read some of the recent studies about the dramatic affect on relaxation and infertility but have no idea how that can help you right now. You are looking for solutions. Hopefully we can help you.