Riding the TTC roller-coaster every month can get very exhausting, depressing and very frustrating.   The first two weeks are spent turning the let-down from the previous month into cautious optimism around the time of ovulation and then thinking maybe this month? Could it be?  Is that some tenderness in my breast?  And then, the let-down all over again.

Where do we put all of this energy?  It's got to go somewhere, so does it stay locked up inside rattling around like a caged animal?  If it stays inside what kind of pressure is it putting on our bodily functions?  I believe strongly that we have a choice here - and the choice needs to be to LET IT OUT.

Release of this pent-up anger.  As Candace Pert Ph.D. explains "I believe that all emotions are healthy, because emotions are what unite the mind and the body.  Negative emotions are just as healthy as positive."  When we deny or do not express our negative emotions and they do not run its course, causing stress in the system to build that could create harmful blockages.

Here are some ideas to let it all out:
<ol>
	<li>Pay attention to your thoughts - don't judge, just listen.</li>
	<li>Talk with trusted friends or family members.  Again - let it all out even it if is not making any sense.</li>
	<li>Keep a journal / blog.</li>
	<li>Conscious breathing.</li>
	<li>Visualization of the anger and then letting it go.</li>
	<li>Drawing, sketching, creating something while focusing on the frusteration.</li>
	<li>Loud music, yelling at the top of your lungs.</li>
	<li>Guided visualization and deep relaxation.</li>
	<li>Exercise</li>
	<li>Join a support group</li>
</ol>
Sometimes the bigges<a href="http://www.circlebloom.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/Lion_roaring.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-1460" title="Lion_roaring" src="http://www.circlebloom.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/Lion_roaring-231x300.jpg" alt="Lion_roaring" width="269" height="350" /></a>t impetus to healing can come from jump-starting the immune system with a burst of long-suppressed anger.  How and where is up to you."  Frued described depression as anger redirected against oneself.

Above all, let yourself experience it.  Don't deny it. Move it around and then let it go.

Photo CC credit:  <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/30775272@N05/">Brimac the 2nd</a>