I have known Deborah just about as long as I've lived in San Francisco. Our birthdays are close together, and we are similar Sagittarian free spirits. She is neurotic and picky the same way I am, and makes me laugh a lot. A very independent woman with a lot of spunk, she easily rests at the top of my list of favorite people. I recently interviewed her to find out what life is like for a French person in San Francisco - she has an American mother and a French father. And this is what she shared with me.
Birth place: Grenoble, France
Star sign: Sagittarius
What time of the day were you born: 8:30PM
Favorite foods: cheese, chocolate, lox
Least favorite food: beets, cinnamon, ginger
Favorite drink: water, tomato juice, mocha from Tartine
Least favorite drink: apple juice
Favorite book: World According to Garp, Into Thin Air, Wuthering Heights
Favorite band: The Beatles, Built to Spill, Phoenix
Favorite film: The Godfather, Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid, When Harry Met Sally
Describe yourself in 5 words: overly sensitive, loyal, quirky, fun, particular
Something people don't know about you: I am constantly battling my inner slob
Have you enjoyed being an only child?
No, I have always wanted siblings. I am completely fascinated by that relationship, and I have a tendency to idealize it. I get really upset when siblings fight in front of me, and really moved when they seem to be enjoying each other's company.
What is life like as a French woman in America?Well, I do not consider myself a "French woman", I don't consider myself American either. I really feel like I am half n' half. It's a great advantage in life, but I also sometimes feel like I don't fit in in either country. I have a lot of what some of my friends have labeled as "the European inflexibility" in me. This has sometimes caused problems for me living in a country where people don't go by "traditions" and are always looking to modify and "improve" things. Sometimes I like to go by the "rules", and I don't want to explain why I do things a certain way, or why I don't want to change it.
What were your parents like when you were a teenager?
My parents have always doted on me (I am their only child), but when I was a teenager, they were pretty strict with me. I was always the kid that couldn't go out, and who had to be picked up early. At the same time they really instated a sense of independence in me. Now that I am an adult they are very supportive of any decision I make about my life.
Having worked with so many, what is your opinion of artists?I hate to generalize; artists are like everyone else they come in all shapes and sizes. They are amazing passionate people, that I definitely really look up to. I am very envious of people who seem to know exactly what they want to do with their life, and are committed to it 100%. One thing I have noticed about artists is their lack to seem to relate to other people.
What did you want to be when you grew up (when you were a child)?A chemist. I really wanted to wear a lab coat, have my hair up in a bun, and wear glasses (?????)
Which vacation, thus far, has been your favorite?I think my trip to Peru really topped all my other trips, but it's hard to pick. I also really loved Norway.
What is it that you love and hate about San Francisco?I love how beautiful this place is, the landscape, the weather, the architecture. I love the amazing people I have met here, and the never-ending list of things to do. One thing I have had a problem with, is that it seems very hard to make meaningful bonds here. People are not committed to this place, and I feel that they hesitate to commit to friendships as a result. It's a great place to have a blast for a few years, but I miss a sense of community.
What do you value most in life?This is going to sound totally corny, but I feel there is no other response. The one thing I truly value in life is my family and my friends.
Best surprise you've ever gotten?I have a knack for ruining surprises. I have rarely been surprised in my life. When I was kid for my birthday, I would hold a present and know exactly what was in it. My mom would get so annoyed at me.
Why don't you have a blog?!Well, probably for several reasons. One I don't have the self-discipline, I've never been able to keep a journal, either. The second reason would probably be linked to some insecurities of mine, and not feeling like I would that have much interesting stuff to share.
Best and Worst teachers you've ever had and why?Best: my sixth grade physics teacher. He was super strict, asked for a lot of respect, but gave it right back to us. As an 11 year old, it was really thrilling to feel like I was getting a glimpse at adulthood. Plus he made physics interesting.
Worst: so many, I wouldn't even know where to start. France is known for its BRUTAL teachers.
Do you accept your neurotic behavior or do you try to fight it?
I have no idea what you're talking about! I accept most of them, in fact, I like them!
Nicest compliment you've been given.Oh, this is a very long story. Short version: when I was 16, and working at a summer camp, a man who had been my counselor, and who I always really looked up to (he was very COOL, well read, into music, hilarious) made a point of telling me he had misjudged me in the past, and now that he really knew me he thought I was an interesting person, and wished he hadn't jumped to conclusions. I don't know if this makes any sense to you, but it's a moment I have never forgotten, and it was 12 years ago.
What do you like to do on Sundays?Go out to brunch, make soup, fight the Sunday night blues by having dinner with friends.
Newman or Redford?In general I would say Newman, but in "Butch Cassidy", I would have to go with Redford.
Do you think the story behind 'When Harry met Sally' is still relevant today?I don't know that it ever was relevant. I love the movie for the dialogue mostly. I definitely think it's possible for men and women to be friends. I've never succeeded at it, but I still believe!
Biggest lie you've told yourself.
N/A
Biggest lie you've told others.
N/A (I'm not much of a liar, I can't think of anything). I exaggerate A LOT, ALL THE TIME.
I think you are a very funny person. Do you think of yourself that way? Yes, when people laugh. I have friends who think I'm funny, but I also get a lot of blank looks from people (I am assuming they don't think I'm funny).